I need some really serious moral help please..?

He was just as involved in making the baby as you were so there is no reason he should just get priase for doing things that are expected of a father. You two are both the parents to the boy so you should both be included in everything, including little things like the first haircut and first day of day care and all that. However if he isnt going to be there financially and emotionally for you then he doesn't derserve to be the good guy all the time for just doing things here and there. Have you gone through court yet to work things out? If not you could try a mediator and in the contract you could work out all the details like important milestones, diaper and food responsibilities, everything,